Your browser (Internet Explorer 6) is out of date. It has known security flaws and may not display all features of this and other websites. Learn how to update your browser.
X
Post

Watch your Facebook Status!

Facebook

“You think you can trust someone, well I guess I was wrong”              “Wish I actually had a shoulder to lean on”                   “Guess who is a backstabbing….” 

That sound familiar? Maybe you have even done it. Doesn’t it just feel so good to get the feelings off your check to get it out there?

How many of you have been the unnamed person in those status?  Have you even known someone was referring to you in a hurtful comment? Its painful isn’t it? Sometimes embarrassing, there is a good chance your not the only one that knows that was about you.

These status’ don’t just break the heart of the person you wrote it about. They break Gods heart. He wants his people to be people of love, not viscous Facebook posts.   He tells us in Matthew 22:38-39 that the importance of loving people is only 2nd to loving God! So when you are about to post something on Facebook think. Does this show love? Would this break someones heart? Would this poorly represent my image as a child of God?

I know your thinking, OK that’s great Ali, but I’m hurt. Am I supposed to just lay down and take it? Am I just supposed to let them hurt me?

You can tell them privately and in love tell the person,  that what they did was wrong and hurtful. Facebook is not the appropriate  platform to discipline your friends. Matthew 18:15 tells us to go to our brother in private if they have committed an offence and attempt to restore them privately. A lot of times they don’t even realize that they hurt you until they see something on Facebook. At that point you may have just hurt the chance of any restoration of the friendship. 

God gives us very clear instructions on what we say.

Ephesians 4:29  Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

So before you post your next Facebook post stop and think.

  • How would I feel if this was about me
  • How would I feel if Jesus was reading over my shoulder
  • Does this status update represent who I am in Jesus. 

Ali

I am an average woman in my mid 20's who has a heart for Teens. I have worked with my churches youth group for the past 6 years and seen the struggles that Teens face every day. My heart really goes out to them as they try to find their way in a world where anything goes! I married my high school sweet heart in 2004! You will see him on this site also. That is Jimmy! We have been together since our Sophomore year and have always found our selves in some ministry together. We currently serve with our youth group, and have small bible studies in our home. We realized that we had a heart for something much bigger and wanted to reach more with the hope of Jesus Christ. In 2011 We ran into Bob who had an idea for a radio station for Teens after praying and researching what was needed tayaradio.com was born! I am excited to see where this site goes and excited to get to know the readers and help you learn more about yourself and your walk with God.

  • I agree with this post a lot, and it’s not just Facebook. Sometimes people will even share things they saw in a private setting (like a bonfire party) and that can be embarrassing too. I will admit to probably having done this, but another thing to consider is what could you do to pick that person up? Maybe they had a bad day and just need one person to do just that. Courtesy is something a lot of people do not consider as a whole when they partake in conversations.

    Brian

    05/23/2012

  • @ Brian, I couldn’t agree with you more that this needs to go beyond just facebook. We should apply this to our whole life. Can you imagine how much less drama and hurt feelings we would have in our life if we could just follow these few guide lines.

    I addressed facebook directly because it is in print, and out there for the whole world to see. When something is said on there is spread like wild fire. You can damage a friendship very quickly by posting a hurtful status.

    Thank you again for your comments and reading our blog!

    Ali

    05/31/2012

Leave a comment  

name*

email*

website

Submit comment