Loving Non-Christians
I recently read a blog post by Jon Acoff.
How much time do you spend with non-Christians? Really? How much time do you really spend with non-Christians? How much time is appropriate to spend with non-Christians? If you go to public school, then you probably spend most of your day with non-Christians, but do you actually hang out with them, be with them, or do you just tolerate them until you can get back into your insulated bubble of Jesus?
His post brought up a lot of great points that required me to do a lot of self examination, and I did not like what I found…
I am just as guilty of this as the next person. I have my Christian music, Christian friends, Christian social events, and not to mention all the Christian co-workers I spend my day with, insulating me from the world.
I have spent years building a nice little Christian bubble in which I work and play in. Though, this is not the example Christ has set for us.
Christ said “It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick…I came not to call the righteous, but sinners”. If we take Christs example we should be hanging out with non-Christians as well. Jesus was often found with non-Christians, aka tax collectors, and sinners.
William Temple, in the early 20th century, said “The church is the only organization that exists primarily for the sake of non-members.”
As Jon said time = love. No agenda’s, no “projects”, no pre-determined plan of attack to “win over” those non-Christians, but to spend quality time with them.
I once heard a story about a father who wanted to step out of his Christian circle and to spend time with his community; but unfortunately, he did not know how. Although, at first it seemed impossible for him to do so, as most of us think, one day he thought of the perfect solution.
Every Monday night, he and his son, who had graduated from college, went to a local pub in their neighborhood. For three hours, every week, they sat in the same spot. Week after week, month after month, they sat and talked. My friend went with them one night and said it was amazing. In three hours, dozens of people at this local bar came and sat with them. They talked, they shared, they listened, and they became friends. Weddings, funerals, unemployment, all stages of life passed through that small booth, and slowly but surely everyone there learned that these two guys wanted to spend time with them.
When the son later graduated from grad school, the guys at the bar threw him a party. They had become family. Why? Because Time = Love.
It isn’t difficult, and doesn’t mean you have to go drink, but he obviously knew where non-Christians were going to be and they just talked with them, loved on them.
What is stopping you from hanging out with Non-Christians?
Jimmy
First and foremost I am a follower of Christ. I am far from perfect, but everyday I try and take a step forward to be more like Him. I'm a 20 something writer, husband, youth pastor, realtor, entrepreneur, guitarist, and nerd.
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I love this Time = Love
This is so true, we need to get out there get our hands dirty and share what we believe. We do need to make sure to keep a healthy balance, be sure that we stay plugged into our church and studied up in our Bibles so we can share about Christ. You don’t want to become just another person out there floating around in the world.
Thanks for sharing!
Ali
05/10/2012
Remember though you have to have a good knowledge of Gods Word.If a discussion comes up about Christianity especially about pain&suffering in the world and you stumble over the answer or even say you cant give an answer it just might be a very awkward point of the evening and could give the impression to non-believers that Christianity is weak.
frank keefe
05/10/2012
That is extreamly true!
That is why it is important to strike a balance you must have your Christian bubble to study, to Renew your faith and energy.
But we are told to go and share the gospel so we must get out there!
Balance is key!
Ali
05/10/2012
@ Frank – So true you should constantly be studying (everyday) to stay sharp, as well as be in a good body of believers in order to stay sharp. We can’t just stay in our nice comfy Christian bubble, and talk about how we should reach people. Sometimes you just have to go out and do it. Don’t be afraid to say “I don’t know, I will research it and get back with you.” Then go study and get back with them! AKA you are spending more time with that person.
God doesn’t call the equipped, he equips the call.
Thanks for sharing.
Jimmy
05/10/2012